Category Archives: Self Development

The Seven Basic Goal Categories

Currently I’m reading a book called “Reaching For Your Goals – Jeff Davidson”

As time passes by I would like to share certain inputs or chapter that I really like or find it valuable for all to share. One of the chapter that Jeff wrote on was on The Big Seven or The Seven Basic Goal Categories. Here is a short excerpt of it.

    The Big Seven

Dr Allesandra says that for many years, people lived with the mistaken belief that their home life and work life could be totally separated. Many people gave their families and personal lives a back seat to their careers, chasing only the carrot of success while other facets of their lives suffered. Yet, you have many needs and wants you seek to fulfill. Basically,human needs fall into seven broad categories:

Mental : The functions of your mid – memory, concentration, learning, creativity, reasoning and mathematical abilities

Physical: The many functions f your body – overall fitness, percent of body fat, skills and abilities, agility and endurance

Family : Your relationships with the special people you consider to be part of your family

Social : Your relationshps with others outside your family and outside your business – in a word, friends

Spiritual : Your relationship between you and your religion. Also philosophical and humanitarian areas of your life

Career: Your involvement in your chosen field, both on and off the job

Financial: The management of your financial resources and obligations


Get Rid of Bad Working Habits

Get Rid of Bad Working Habits (adapted from a posting made realsom1)

Work as everyone knows is where you spend more than half of your waking hours at least for 20-30 years of your most productive lifetime. Unless of course, you’re born with a silver spoon or have an unconventional job…then again, let’s just leave that for another day.

Going by the many working hours we spend at work, it actually does pay to learn on how to get rid of certain bad working habits. What you don’t have any bad working habits you say? Really, you really don’t? Well if you honestly believe so that good for you. Give yourself a big clap.

Otherwise continue to read on and who knows, you might actually relearn a thing or to. Most people have at least one habit that drives everyone else insane? You might bite your nails, slurp your coffee, dig your nose (don’t laugh- it actually happens), tap your pen incessantly, hummed loudly your song, blast your computer speaker to your favourite MTV hits and the list goes on and on. Annoying? Yes. Serious problems? You be the judge.

In the office, however, some habits can go beyond annoying your co-workers; and can even damage your career.

the sake of your career and your co-workers’ sanity, here’s a list of
bad work habits that can harm your career and how you can break them.
If you’re guilty of one (or more), it’s time to get them under control.

Bad Habit: Missing deadlines.
What you think: “It’s okay. Nevermind. If it’s only a little late, it doesn’t mean anything.”
What it really says: Your colleagues and boss can’t count on you.
What to do:
Don’t view deadlines as negotiable. Remind yourself that people are
counting on you to do your job well, which includes completing tasks on
time. Even if you just barely missed the deadline and everything turned
out OK, you probably caused your teammates a lot of anxiety and extra
work, which they won’t forget.

Bad Habit: Dressing unprofessionally.
What you think: “I’m the office free spirit with a quirky sense of style!”
What it really says: You don’t take the job seriously.
What to do:
You don’t have to be a boring dresser to be professional, but you
shouldn’t look like you’re about to go clubbing or strutting down a
runway. Take a cue from your co-workers to see what’s considered
acceptable in the office.

Bad Habit: Not being punctual.
What you think: “As long as I get all my work in, nobody cares.”
What it really says: You think your time is more important than everybody else’s.
What to do:
Stick to the schedule. Everyone in your office would like to sleep in a
little or leave early, but they don’t because people rely on them to be
on time.

Bad Habit: Checking your e-mail, playing games, shopping.
What you think: “I’m discreet.”
What it really says: You’re not doing your job.
What to do:
Keep the fun stuff to a minimum. Most employers don’t mind if you check
your e-mail every once in awhile or read your favorite blog for a few
minutes in the morning. They begin to care when you minimize that game
of Scrabulous every time they walk by your desk. You’re being paid to
work, not play.

Bad Habit: Gossiping.
What you think: “I’m just saying what I heard.”
What it really says: You can’t be trusted.
What to do:
Sure, everybody gossips a little here and there, but it shouldn’t be
your livelihood. Eventually you’ll gain a reputation for not keeping
anything confidential –whether it’s a personal matter or work-related.
Plus, your chattering could end up hurting somebody’s feelings or

Bad Habit: Being negative.
What you think: “Everybody complains.”
What it really says: You’re the person to avoid.
What to do:
It’s natural to grumble about work once in awhile. If you gripe and
moan when you’re asked to do anything, however, people will not only
get annoyed, they’ll wonder why you don’t just quit. Keep in mind that
work isn’t always fun; keep the complaints to a minimum.

Bad Habit: Trying to be everybody’s best friend.
What you think: “I’m just sociable.”
What it really says: You don’t know how to set boundaries.
What to do:
It’s not uncommon for friendships to develop at work, but don’t expect
it to happen with everybody. Unless you have reason to do otherwise,
treat your superiors, colleagues and subordinates like professionals,
not like drinking buddies.

Bad Habit: Burning bridges.
What you think: “I’ll never see them again.”
What it really says: You’re not a professional who thinks about the future.
What to do:
As much as you dream of telling off your boss or co-workers after
you’ve handed in your resignation, restrain yourself. People change
jobs, companies merge – someone you dissed in the past may end up being
your boss down the road.

Bad Habit: Always being the funny one.
What you think: “People love me.”
What it really says: You’re really annoying.
What to do:
There’s nothing wrong with being funny – most people do like a good
sense of humor. Just remember that not everybody wants to hear your
sarcastic quips and “Godfather” impersonations every five minutes.

Bad Habit: Forgetting you have neighbors.
What you think: “I’m not as annoying as they are.”
What it really says: You’re inconsiderate.
What to do:
Do unto your co-workers as you’d want them to do unto you. Your
hour-long conference call on speakerphone is just as irksome to your
cube mates as theirs are to you.

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I’ve got a secret: the Law Of Attraction is a lie

How many of you here have read all about the Law of Attraction, raise your hands?

Now, how many of you here have read the famous book by Rhonda Byrne or watch her adapted documentary, raise your hands?

And finally how many of you actually believe the message brought by Rhonda Byrne in her book “The Secret” ?

I guess for many of you, you must have raised your hand at least once throughout my 3 first questions. Like her or hate her, many of you would agree with me that more than anything else, Rhonda Byrne made popular one of the most common ideas of most self development books which is the Law of Attraction. Although the idea itself was not hers, the way she packaged and marketed the idea of the “Law of Attraction” into such a phenomenal secret that you just had to know was truly a stroke of creative genious.

Now then again, I’m not about to talk about the Law of Attraction here, but more about what if, and I repeat what if the Law of Attraction is in fact a lie all along. Here’s a great idea that refutes the very core of what Law is Attraction is all about and tells us there are in fact 2 sides of a coin.

This is the article reproduce from its original content

I’ve got a secret: the Law Of Attraction is a lie

by Jonathan Fields | 01/29/08

It was at the center of the biggest self-help phenomenon of the last few decades.

Now, everyone knows the secret was…The Law Of Attraction. The notion that, through cosmic law, whatever you focus on necessarily grows, so, rather than focusing on what you don’t want, hold what you do want in your mind…and watch it blossom.

But, what if the fundamental basis for the law of attraction was made-up?

What if it wasn’t a law at all, but really just a theory or hypothesis? What if it wasn’t as provable, self-evident or sacrosanct as Newton’s law or any of the other laws of physics that have been proven through verifiable, scientific study and replication?

What if it’s effectiveness, if any, was really much more about basic human nature and failing to acknowledge this dramatically limited, rather than strengthened it’s effect?

As proof of the law of attraction’s “law-ness,” a parade of visionaries appeared…

Each one was mesmerizing. Captivating speakers, from Joe Vitale to Jack Canfield and Neale Donald Walsch to John Assaraf. Fascinating to watch. They spoke to the impact the law of attraction has had on their lives and the lives of thousands of others. Then, explanations based in “science” were proffered. Because, for us to accept something as law, we need proof. It needs to work all the time, regardless of belief, for all the people.

It’s all about quantum physics…

Every thought, we learned, creates a measurable electromagnetic wave that is “perceivable” on a subtle level, by others. At least the first part of this is verifiably true, by modern methodology. And, the latter claim, that others perceive and have the ability to respond to these vibrations, I cannot prove…but, for the sake of optimism, I am open to.

We were then told that, in nature, like attracts like. So, if you constantly focus your thoughts on what you want to manifest, rather that what you want to avoid, those around you whose thoughts are also resonating at the frequency associated with that same positive intention will be attracted to you. And, the net-effect will be the manifestation of all you desire.

Interesting…though, I don’t quite buy it

  • First, in nature, as a general rule, like does not attract like, like repels like. Magnetism and polarity is one of the purest examples of this. The same poles of magnets fight to get away from each other, while opposite poles desperately seek to connect. Same thing with electricity, like charges repel each other, while differing charges attract. So, if our thoughts emit electro-magnetic waves all day and other beings can, in fact detect and respond to them, the far more “natural” assumption is that others with “like” thoughts and similar electromagnetic waves will be repelled, not drawn to us.
  • Second, harmonic resonance doesn’t explain the law of attraction. Harmonic resonance says when an object vibrating at one frequency is placed close enough to a similar object that vibrates at the same frequency, the vibrations from the first object slowly entrain the objects around it to vibrate, too. A tuning fork is the simplest example. Strike it an place it next to another tuning fork of the same note and they both begin to vibrate at a similar frequency. Problem is, we are not tuning forks. Harmonic resonance assumes that those other objects (a) are at rest, before being exposed to the original object, making them “free” to adopt the other object’s vibrations, (b) vibrate at the identical frequency, and (c) do not actively generate their own conflicting vibrations of equal or greater strength. Human beings satisfy none of these conditions. We are not “empty” of our own electromagnetic vibrations or waves, we are not identically structured to resonate at identical frequencies and, in fact, we create a non-stop stream of very strong vibrations all day long.

While these explanations seemed less than convincing, there was something that still nagged at me…

While I didn’t find universal truth in the explanations offered to explain the law of attraction, I’d actually experienced the effect of focusing on constructive outcomes. It worked. But, not because of electromagnetic waves or harmonic resonance.

The answer, in my mind, is so much simpler, so much more practical.

We are so much closer to dogs than we know. Subject to conditioning much the same way Pavlov’s pooches salivated at the ring of a bell. For us to take action, especially sustained and repeated action toward the attainment of any goal, we need to believe the outcome, no matter how remote, is on some level attainable. Without that belief, there is no action. And, without action, there is no accomplishment. And…

Repetition fuels belief!

Take the smartest people in the world and begin to repeat to them a conclusion that they know to be false. In the beginning they outright reject it. Over time, though, they not only become open to the idea, but, through, relentless repetition, it becomes incontrovertible gospel.

Repetition creates belief. This is the basis of all thought-conditioning…also known as brainwashing. It’s the fundamental tool of every cult. But, as much as it can be used for destructive ends, it can also be harnessed to form the basis of great achievement.

Repeatedly visualizing a deeply sought after goal, seeing, feeling , hearing yourself accomplish this goal, over and over, has a profound effect. It conditions you slowly away from self-doubt and disbelief and moves you increasingly toward belief.

And, the more you believe, the more likely you are to act…

Not just big, life-altering actions, though. When you believe something, even marginally, you begin to do a thousand little things differently. You talk to people you’d normally avoid. You ask questions you’d have been to shy to ask. You help people you’d normally ignore. You dress a little better. You interact with more confidence. You carry yourself differently.

You invest time, energy, hours and funds in yourself and others without really noticing how differently you are presenting yourself to the world. To those who come in contact with you, you are different.

And the net result of those dozens of microscopic changes in your behavior, in a daily basis is two-fold:

  • People perceive you differently – they become responsive because they read in you a sense of confidence, commitment and raw-energy that they want to participate in.
  • All the little actions begin to add up – the thousands of nearly imperceptible changes in behavior and modest actions taken on a consistent, daily basis, begin to yield results to take you a step closer to your visualized goal.

And, each positive interaction and baby step, begins to further fuel the belief that was set in motion by your initial conditioning. This sets in motion a belief, action, attainment cycle that becomes increasingly unstoppable.

So, in the end, you really don’t need to leap down the quantum physics rabbit hole and buy into the existence of some Law of Attraction.

If you want to, that’s fine. But, it’s really so much simpler than that.

Repeatedly visualizing a goal as if you had already attained it conditions you to believe it’s possible. Over time, as that conditioning takes root through repetition, your belief in success leads you to act differently on many levels and take actions you’d never have taken.

Those actions increasingly deliver results and inspire you to believe your vision is attainable on a deeper level. Which inspires even more action. And, as people around you see you not only succeeding, but becoming more confident, they will respond to that confidence, too.

It’s all very concrete.

And, it also explains why even the most dogged focus on the attainment of a goal will bring you nothing without an equal commitment to action.

So, what do you think?

Is the law of attraction real? Is it bunk? Are the quantum physics validations behind it valid? Or, is something far simpler, yet equally impactful going on?

The lines are open…

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